The best thing that happened to me in 2015? I started with meditation. I’d like to share it’s power with you.
Inspired by Tim Ferris and his podcasts along with some friends who mentioned meditation to me before, I gave the Headspace a try. Headspace is a guided meditation service (you can access it via the website or smartphone app), which will literally guide you through your first meditation. And it is done extremely well. Spoken by Andy Puddicombe, who decided to leave to Himalayas in the middle of his studies in order to learn about meditation, which started off a 10 year long journey which would culminate by his ordination as Tibetian monk 🙂
First thing – meditation is simple. Don’t worry about not being able to do it. Loose all your expectations, forget everything you thought meditation might be or could be. Meditation is very natural process of your body, you kind of meditate in your life without knowing it sometimes anyway.
Stop worrying about not doing the meditation itself well enough. Don’t worry too much about how do you breathe, and how many thoughts and what kind of thoughts are on your mind.
That’s exactly what meditation is all about – being ok with your thoughts and feelings, no matter their quantity, nature or pace. Being ok means being aware of them in order to letting them go again.
Acknowledge your feelings and thoughts instead of fighting them – that way you can truly let them go…
Example – you are hungry. When the feeling of hunger comes, it’s good to recognize it, accept it, and let it go. If you are seriously too hungry, you will most likely to make a decision to eat. If you are not too hungry, the feeling of hunger will appear again at some point, probably with higher intensity and you can react to it. But if you focus on it too much in its first arrival without making decision, you put energy towards the feeling and you perhaps start thinking, and overusing your mind – is that really necessary? It’s like this with many feelings. Some of them we don’t want to even have on our minds, but damn it’s so hard to let them go, right?
Meditation is sitting at the side of the road and observing your thoughts and feelings, like cars driving on that road. (© Headspace)
As Eckhart Tolle would say, you can always do three things – accept something, change something (take action), or leave it if possible. These three actions are straightforward, even though sometimes it’s very hard to decide for the right one. If you choose to complain or be unhappy about something, you are loosing your energy by thinking about it and feeding these emotions – I think that’s a pity.
It’s similar with meditation – if there is a thought that requires your attention and you are unable to focus on other things, taking one of these three options will most likely help you.
Try it (via headspace), it’s just ten minutes a day. I found that it really works to establish it as a habit in the morning – it’s easy to invest 10 minutes in the morning with somewhat emptier mind than anywhere later on.
Meditating changed me. I received good feedback from my close friends – “You’re so grounded!” “You are just so happy!” I think that it’s because being able to observe and acknowledge my own feelings helped me so much to devote more attention and focus to my friends, which is so important, and I feel like I want to always do more in that direction.
I strive to experience the moments when we’re able to take a look at the bigger picture, including ourselves. The moments when we’re present and aware. When we feel like connecting with our older friends, apologising to the people we might have hurt in the past, and feeling content with others and this world. Not rushing anywhere, experiencing anything as it comes – observing what’s happening around us and to us from the side of a road.
I hope it will be useful to you, dear reader – and you will one day feel the awesome power of being in content with all the world, possibly the universe – centered, grounded and present 🙂